You should come out of the Quick Setup Wizard with working assist and follow. You shouldn't need to see anyone's configuration and if you saw someone's configuration you probably wouldn't know where to look to see how theirs is working.
Here is MiRai's Quick Setup Wizard walkthrough video demonstrating the MMO - Standard configuration; it goes over everything you need for Assist and Follow to work.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1GhvGBIqehgSpecifically, on the last page of the Quick Setup Wizard, you need to go into the Game Key Bindings tab and tell ISBoxer how to a) target each of your guys (by clicking the Auto-fill button by the targeting table should work fine for FFXIV), b) your in-game Follow Target key binding, and c) your in-game Assist Target key binding. (So make sure you have those key bindings configured within the game!) MiRai explains this part of the wizard at 6:14 in the video, here is a direct link to where that begins:
http://youtu.be/1GhvGBIqehg?t=6m14sThat is really it. If you didn't do that the first time through, then follow and assist wont work. It's easier to do it in the wizard than after the wizard, so assuming that pretty much all you've done is used the wizard, right now you should go to the File menu in ISBoxer, select Clear, and let ISBoxer clear everything out. Then use the wizard again, and make sure you do this part.